I asked my 10-year-old son, Carter, what he thinks it means to be a man. We discuss how to teach manhood to our sons.
Many fathers worry about whether they are providing the right guidance as their boys grow up. I sat down with my son to reflect on the lessons I learned from the men in my life and to hear what he is actually picking up from me. This conversation shifted my perspective on what it means to be a positive male role model in a child's eyes.
By opening up this honest dialogue, you can better understand your son's perspective on masculinity. We also include a special tribute to Henry Weatherall as part of this reflection on fatherhood and the legacy we leave behind. Whether you are navigating early parenting or looking to strengthen your bond, this father-son talk offers a new way to approach intentional parenting.
Key Topics
Karter defines manhood through toughness when needed, handling responsibilities, and following through instead of putting things off.
He names his father and Kobe Bryant as men he looks up to, citing family priorities, business sense, and toughness in Bryant.
Karter says men should be able to cry and explains that anger can be met by speaking up or learning from mistakes.
He describes a man’s family role as helping keep things under control and making sure everyone is okay.
Karter values his dad teaching practical skills and revealing what happens behind the scenes.
He wants to leave work at work and avoid a job that intrudes on family time, while considering firefighting as a future career.
Ramon reflects on generational differences in showing emotion and the importance of expressing love, not only anger.
Ramon encourages fathers to ask their sons what makes someone a man and listen to what their answers reveal.
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0:00 Defining Manhood Through a Son's Eyes
1:18 Navigating Emotions and Toughness
3:53 Reflecting on Generational Differences
5:50 Reflections on Parenting and Future Goals
